Deconstructing Relationships 401

Deconstructing Relationships 401

Taught By Dr. Todd Pressman

Worth 3 CE Credits

Q&A At The End

Live On Zoom

Duration: 3 Hours 15 Minutes

Saturday, May 14 from 3-6:15pm eastern

Thursday, December 8 from 6:45pm-10pm eastern








NOTE: You must take the 101 seminar, or have sufficient experience with the core fear and chief defense principles, before signing up for 201, 301, or 401.

May 14, 2022


December 8, 2022


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Advanced Strategies

(Pre-requisite: Deconstructing Relationships 101 or sufficient familiarity with the core fear and chief defense principles.


Continuing the practice of “doing the opposite” of our chief defense in relationships, this final module in the Deconstructing Relationships Series presents advanced strategies for breaking through the barriers to expressing our authentic identity, and having it mirrored by the other(s) we are in relationship with.  

There is no experience more fulfilling than that of being truly seen and accepted  by another for who you truly are, after having kept this deep self in hiding under so many layers of anxious defense.  

The exercises in this module are powerful and will give you a dramatic sense of freedom from the inhibitions and anxieties that have held you back…in relationships, in career and in life!  

This session includes the “Vision Questing” process, where you will design a path to actualizing your ideal relationship(s).


  • Review of finding the core fear and chief defense; seeing them at work in our relationships—30 minutes

  • Exercise: Mirror-work—30 minutes

  • Exercise: “Roaring” At Your Fear—30 minutes

  • The Warrior’s Stance for Relationships—30 minutes

  • Exercise: Vision Questing for your Relationship-45 minutes

  • Q and A: 15 minutes


⇒ 3:00-3:30 PM – Review of finding the core fear and chief defense; seeing them at work in relationships
⇒ 3:30-4:00 PM – Exercise: Mirror-work
⇒ 4:00-4:30 PM – Exercise: The empowered self
⇒ 4:30-5:00 PM – Exercise: Refusing to respond with the chief defense in relationships
5:00-5:15 PM – Break
5:15-6:00 PM – Exercise: Setting goals on a timeline
⇒ 6:00-6:15 PM – Q and A

Highly experiential program. Come prepared for a deep exploration into how the core fear and chief defense play out in your relationships . . . and learn what to do about it!

Who this seminar is for:

This seminar is appropriate for any kind of relationship, including parent-child relationships, peer relationships, work relationships, romantic relationships, dating relationships, our relationships with a group of people, relationships between friends, and even our relationship with ourselves or with a “higher” source.

Ideal for

  • Psychologists
  • Social Workers
  • Therapists
  • Counselors
  • Lay People

CE Credits Information

Worth 3 CE Credits!

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● Define the mechanism of relationship conflicts according to the model of the core fear and chief defense. 
● Explain why “doing the opposite” of the chief defense is necessary for resolving conflict in relationships. 
● Demonstrate the steps involved in creating goals on a timeline for one’s ideal relationships, and how the practices taught will ensure these goals are ever-evolving.

(Deconstructing Relationships 101, or sufficient experience with the core fear and chief defense principles, is a pre-requisite for taking this course) 
This final module in the Deconstructing Relationships Series presents advanced strategies for doing the opposite of the chief defense. These processes are designed to transform the fear that has led to unhealthy patterns of relating, even in the face of more significant challenges to that fear. Such transformation makes it possible to express one’s authentic identity fully and vulnerably, and have it mirrored by the other(s) one is in relationship with. 
Once released in this way, a final exercise gives instruction on how to actively pursue one’s ideals in their relationships, beyond the inhibiting forces of the core fear and chief defense.  

● Regardless of the details of a relationship conflict, it is only one’s core fear that needs to be addressed. 
● To address that fear, we employ the principle of “doing the opposite”.
● With repeated success in this, one builds confidence to practice the same principle in the face of more significant challenges. 
● Setting one’s goals for a relationship on a timeline creates opportunities to continue the practice of “doing the opposite”. 
● This becomes an ever-evolving process as the challenges of the relationship (and life) present new opportunities to create a more effective response as a couple.

dr todd pressman



Dr. Pressman is a clinical psychologist and international seminar leader. He is widely known for his work with Deconstructing Anxiety, Transpersonal Breathwork and A Course in Miracles.

He graduated with degrees in psychology from the University of Pennsylvania and Saybrook Institute. His books Deconstructing Anxiety: The Journey from Fear to Fulfillment, Radical Joy: Awakening Your Potential For True Fulfillment and The Bicycle Repair Shop: A True Story Of Recovery From Multiple Personality Disorder have all received high acclaim. In 1982, he traveled the world to study the great wisdom and healing traditions, including with a Zen master, a Jain family, a Zoroastrian high priest and a Sri Lankan firewalker. His education also includes an internship under Stanislav Grof, M.D. at the Esalen Institute.

With a background deeply rooted in tradition (he was groomed by a father whose teachers were taught by Sigmund Freud), he has integrated this wide-ranging experience into a new program of psychological development called “Deconstructing Anxiety”. His working model is based on Michelangelo’s ideal: to release the statue from the stone, the authentic Self from the overlays of imposed identity, into the discovery of freedom, joy, and fulfillment.


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