Deconstructing Relationships Seminar-11-june

Deconstructing Relationships Seminar

Taught By Dr. Todd Pressman

Worth 6 CE Credits

Q&A At The End

Live On Zoom

Duration: 7 Hours 10 Minutes

January 28, 2023 at 12:00-7:10pm

& June 11, 2023 at 12:00-7:10pm








January 28, 2023


June 11, 2023




Struggling to connect? To be heard? To be truly seen? To be accepted? To communicate openly?

Relationships are complicated . . . confusing . . . challenging. Misunderstandings abound.

Let’s deconstruct our relationships with clear teaching and step-by-step instructions to dramatically improve your relationships and change your life!

Perfect for parent-child relationships, peer relationships, work relationships, romantic relationships, dating relationships, our relationships with a group of people, relationships between friends, and even our relationship with ourselves or with a “spiritual” source.


Have you ever felt like you’re just “passing time” with your partner?  Perhaps you feel they are not meeting your needs, that you are bored with them, or that the relationship has grown a bit stale.  Maybe your relationship has become subtly or openly abusive, but you feel trapped with no idea what to do about it.

There’s no question…relationships make the world go ‘round.  They can be our greatest source of fulfillment in one moment, and our greatest source of suffering in the next.  As the saying goes: “You can’t live with them and you can’t live without them!”.  

Given the importance of relationships in our lives, we need new solutions, something beyond resigning to our “fate” or living with unending volatility.  

The Deconstructing Relationships Series gives you these new solutions.

Based on Dr. Pressman’s award-winning “Deconstructing Anxiety” program, this new seminar series starts with the profound discovery that there is a single “core fear” at the root of any struggle we may have.  When applied to relationships, we see that the core fear is responsible for projecting how we view our partner, where we get tangled up in false assumptions about them, etc.—and how we do this to ourselves as well.  

 We then react to the core fear with a “chief defense’, an automatic habit that is designed to get us the love (or fulfillment or success) that we seek with the other, but which always backfires!  The chief defense is responsible for EVERY relationship struggle we have, even when we are certain the other person is “wrong”.  

And this is good news because it means there is always a new option, a new doorway to walk through, that will bring healing, understanding, empathy and fulfillment between you.  This is where relationships become the vehicle for extraordinary growth and the realization of our highest potential.

Come join us for this exciting new seminar series which offers real solutions for resolving problems and finding wholeness in your relationships.  By exposing the core fear and chief defense responsible for the turmoil behind the scenes, you will discover everything you need to take back control and create a relationship that really works!


(All times given are Eastern Standard Time)

  • 12:00 p.m..-12:30 p.m.– Understanding the concepts of the core fear and chief defense
  • 12:30 p.m.-1:00 p.m.–Exercise: Finding the core fear: Digging for Gold
  • 1:00 p.m.-1:20 p.m.–Exercise: Finding the chief defense: Who Are You Really?
  • 1:20 p.m.-1:30 p.m.–Exercise: Seeing the core fear and chief defense at work in our relationships
  • 1:30 p.m.-1:40 p.m.–Break
New Strategies for Resolving Relational Conflicts
  • 1:40 p.m.-2:00 p.m.–The principle of “doing the opposite” of the chief defense
  • 2:00 p.m.-2:30 p.m.–Exercise: Mirror work
  • 2:30 p.m.-2:50 p.m.–Exercise: The empowered self
  • 2:50 p.m.-3:10 p.m.–Exercise: The Warrior’s Stance in relationships
  • 3:10 p.m.-4:00 p.m.–Meal break
  • 4:00 p.m.-4:30 p.m.–Exercise: Positive flooding
  • 4:30 p.m.-5:00 p.m.–Exercise: Making vulnerable requests
  • 5:00 p.m.-5:30 p.m.–Exercise: Mirroring the authentic self
  • 5:30 p.m.-5:40 p.m.–Break
  • 5:40 p.m.-6:10 p.m.–Exercise: Mirror-work, part 2
  • 6:10 p.m.-6:45 p.m.–Exercise: Vision Questing for Relationships
  • 6:45 p.m.-7:10 p.m.–Questions and Answers

Worth 6 CE credits for qualifying health professionals.
The Deconstructing Relationship Seminar is highly experiential! Come prepared for a deep exploration into how the core fear and chief defense play out in our relationships . . . and learn what to do about them!

Highly experiential program. Come prepared for a deep exploration into how the core fear and chief defense play out in your relationships . . . and learn what to do about it!

Who this seminar is for:

This seminar is appropriate for any kind of relationship, including parent-child relationships, peer relationships, work relationships, romantic relationships, dating relationships, our relationships with a group of people, relationships between friends, and even our relationship with ourselves or with a “higher” source.

Ideal for

  • Psychologists
  • Social Workers
  • Therapists
  • Counselors
  • Anyone interested in discovering all that is possible in their relationships

CE Credits Information

Worth 6 CE Credits!
There is a separate fee and separate registration form to apply for the CE Credits. The CE Credits are only for those who apply for them.
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● Describe the concepts of the core fear and chief defense.
Practice the techniques for finding the core fear and chief defense
● Translate the dynamics of relational conflicts in terms of the core fear and chief defense
● Utilize new techniques for doing the opposite of the chief defense in relationships
● Describe the Deconstructing Relationships Communication Technique
● Demonstrate the steps involved in Vision Questing for one’s ideal relationships.
dr todd pressman



Dr. Pressman is a clinical psychologist and international seminar leader. He is widely known for his work with Deconstructing Anxiety, Transpersonal Breathwork and A Course in Miracles.

He graduated with degrees in psychology from the University of Pennsylvania and Saybrook Institute. His books Deconstructing Anxiety: The Journey from Fear to Fulfillment, Radical Joy: Awakening Your Potential For True Fulfillment and The Bicycle Repair Shop: A True Story Of Recovery From Multiple Personality Disorder have all received high acclaim. In 1982, he traveled the world to study the great wisdom and healing traditions, including with a Zen master, a Jain family, a Zoroastrian high priest and a Sri Lankan firewalker. His education also includes an internship under Stanislav Grof, M.D. at the Esalen Institute.

With a background deeply rooted in tradition (he was groomed by a father whose teachers were taught by Sigmund Freud), he has integrated this wide-ranging experience into a new program of psychological development called “Deconstructing Anxiety”. His working model is based on Michelangelo’s ideal: to release the statue from the stone, the authentic Self from the overlays of imposed identity, into the discovery of freedom, joy, and fulfillment.


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